Must Read: How Soon Is Too Soon To Take Off Your Panties For A Man?

Hey guys! I know I’ve been a bit quiet on the article writing front for a while now- I’ve just been extremely busy with the continuous behind-the-scenes work for GC, chasing up interviews and helping with editing. However, a few days ago, some of my girlfriends and myself engaged in an interest discussion, which I wanted to share with you guys.

One of my friends has recently found herself in an unfortunate predicament; she’s had a huge crush on a guy at work for approximately two months now. They would both check each other out, but neither had the guts to make the first move until about three weeks ago- the guy greeted my friend, and she used this as her cue to ask his name and begin the ‘intro chat’.

To cut a long story short, they agreed to meet up for a date- now this is where things get a bit complicated; my friend is the shy and retiring type so her idea of the perfect date isn’t exactly dinner and movies. Therefore, when the guy suggested that they just hang out at his house, she was happy and this managed to partially calm her nerves.

I know some of you guys may already be thinking that the guy wanted the first date to be at his house because he was after something straight from the jump. However, it wasn’t even like that- it seemed like he genuinely like her- the conversations they had on the phone during the days leading up to the date made my friend so happy; it seemed like a genuine and deep mutual attraction for each other (unless the guy was just a very good actor).

Fast forward to the day of the date and my friend goes to “hang out” with the guy at his house. Now I know my girl- she’s not an easy chick at all- like I said she’s the shy and retiring type and has only had two sexual partners at the age of 26. So I know that even though she was going to meet the guy at his house, it was not her intention to do anything with him.

My friend told me that after a few hours of talking, just laughing and kicking back, they began to make out but then the guy led her to the bedroom. At this point, it was obvious that he had sex on his mind but my friend still wasn’t comfortable about giving it to him- especially not on their first date.

After repeated “jokey” threats that he would rip her pants off, my friend gave in and had sex with him. In her own words to me, she thought if she hadn’t had sex with him then he would have stopped liking her and she really wanted the relationship to progress.

After that first date, it seemed things were going perfectly and they had another date within a week of the first (at his house again and this time my friend was willing to give it to him freely as she thought well they had already done it the first time so it was no big deal).

During the second date, (after they had ‘knocked boots’) she began to question certain aspects of his behaviour and this left her wondering whether they were on the same page or not; they went into town and she saw him checking out other girls (and making no attempt to hide this in the process).

When they got back to his house, his friend came round and he just left my friend sitting alone in his bedroom. After getting tired of waiting for what seemed like an eternity, she sent him a text from his bedroom (as she was too shy to go into the living room whilst his friend was there) telling him she wanted to leave. His reply was a mere and curt “k”.

After that date, the guy was off with my friend and now he doesn’t call her nor speak to her like he did when they see each other at work.

I know most of you will be thinking he just got what he wanted from my friend and now he’s bounced, but I really don’t think that’s the case. I work with both of them in the same building so I know the guy, and truth be told I genuinely don’t think it was his intention to use her.

In fact, as I said to my friend, I think he might have been testing her, and she failed miserably- by dropping her pants on the first date. I think although he wanted it, by my friend giving in, he lost respect for her- that’s my opinion at least.

I genuinely want to know what you guys think though- especially all the fellas- give us ladies some insight ad to what goes on in your messed up heads sometimes.